Tips On How To Stop Social Media From Hurting Your Relationship

There was a day when two people could be in
a relationship and everything was kept
between the two, but now we live in a world
where relationship statuses, issues within
relationships and intimate moments are
shared in every waking detail on social
media.
Keeping a healthy line of communication is
one of the most important elements of a
successful relationship, and sometimes
information shared through Facebook, Twitter
or Instagram can scramble lines of
communication causing confusion and
arguments.
If you are in a relationship where you and
your partner keep tabs on each other through
social media, here are a few tips on how to
maintain a digitally social image without
damaging your relationship.

Establish open communication with your
partner.

It’s very easy to find yourself lurking through
your partner’s social media pages during a
break from work or at night before drifting
off to sleep to see exactly what he/she is
doing on the world wide web, but this type of
searching should never be your sole line of
communication with your partner.
When you are with your partner in the
physical, or when you are having a phone
conversation with him/her, this is the time to
ask the right questions and to establish a line
of clear and open communication.
You shouldn’t have to log on to Facebook to
hear that your partner hated the chicken
dinner you made last night, or to discover
that your partner wants out of the
relationship.
Before publishing private thoughts about your
relationship with the public, make sure that
you are communicating directly with your
partner to avoid arguments and frustrations
later on. This should be a rule of thumb: If I
haven’t spoken directly to my partner about
it, then it shouldn’t be posted online.

Establish what should be disclosed via
social media.

Everything from baby births, to engagements
and even relationship-threatening arguments
are documented on social media as if writing
in a journal. If social media is going to be a
place where you both decide to document
your relationship’s journey, have a
conversation about what should and should
not be disclosed to the world online.
It is important to come to a compromising
agreement with your partner about this type
of communication to avoid mixed signals.

Don’t jump to conclusions.

During your comb through of your partner’s
page, you may discover some things that you
were never aware of, and naturally you may
begin to jump to conclusions or assume things
based upon the evidence in front of you.
Instead of flying off the handle at something
that may not be in line with what you’ve
discussed previously, bring your concerns to
your partner calmly and talk about what you
observed on your partner’s page. You may
find out that your assumptions where far off
from the actual truth.